And I looked and arose and said to the nobles and to the officials and to the rest of the people, “Do not be afraid of them. Remember The Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your daughters, your wives, and your homes.” (Nehemiah 4:14)
I don’t know why, but I feel compelled to write a blog of sorts………I am not a writer (although I have writers in my family), but I am a feeler; I love God’s Word and I am an exhorter- when I learn something God is teaching me, I just have to tell others, it’s hard to keep it to myself. I also feel compelled to encourage women, like myself, who have either very difficult marriages or are married to someone who is on a very different spiritual level (read- unsaved). Many like to call it “unequally yoked” but personally, that reminds me more of oxen than humans.
I’m also going to write this anonymously. That way I can be brutally frank. Life is hard – Life is very hard when you feel you are the only one fighting for your family. But girls, you have to do it!! Memorize Nehemiah 4:14 and quote it out-loud and often. God knows the depth of the pain……He knows that you’d love to be valued and treated well……..He knows that your heart often feels alone and lonely even while sleeping right next to your husband. But girlfriend, trust me when I say He also has a plan for your marriage. Oh I know sometimes you don’t believe that. It certainly doesn’t feel like it. Is this what you really signed up for??? What knight in shining armor? The guy I live with who is super-sarcastic and hyper-critical? Your knight could even be a night-mare. And when your most significant relationship (marriage) is not just sub-standard but even wallowing down in a pit, it seems that other parts of your life are also adversely affected- children, job, friends, etc. Oh God, we sure could use your help……………..
So if any of you are relating to this, I want to encourage you to take a challenge for 2013. Trust Him for your marriage and family. Think big, think miracle…….Tell God that you will use this year to learn to sit in the marriage-ICU ward of His very throne room. I will send out blogs of encouragement. We will not pursue happiness, we will pursue holiness………and the happiness and joy will come. I promise. My marriage has been through hell and back several times and I’m here to tell you that our BIG God is way bigger than our (seemingly) giant problems. He will see you through. You can make it and He is president-in-charge of miracles. In fact, isn’t He the One who specializes in bringing things back from the dead???? Oh yes, that’s what He does!!
I’m also the first one to tell you that marriage counseling and personal counseling are very helpful (preferably Christian). Please be wise in knowing when professional help is imperative. But we also can’t underestimate the importance of our prayers. I have prayed my head off. I have cried a lot- that verse that says He saves our tears in a bottle (Psalm 56:8), and I’m telling you, I have a Costco size jug. I’ve also circled my home so many times in prayer, claiming my mini-Jericho. I have played Christian music loudly all over the house so as to keep Satan at bay-he can’t stand to be around the name of Jesus. Our families are worth declaring war on the father of lies. I really believe Satan is attacking our marriages one by one so we won’t have any energy or hope. Let me just say, over our dead bodies!!!! We want our kids to see and to know that our God is a God of miracles. Amen?
So dear women, please decide in your heart that this will be the year for taking your marriage and family back. Join with me. Our prayers and groans will reach God who will remember and ACT on our behalf (just like He did in Exodus 2 with the children of Israel). We hereby declare war on our Egypts that are holding us in bondage. I’m asking you to decide and I’m also encouraging you to memorize Nehemiah 4:14.
Many blessings are awaiting you oh princess warriors!! Get ON your knees and IN the Word…..
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