The ministry MOMs INC. (formerly known as MOPS) is in need of Mentor Moms. What is a Mentor Mom and what is expected of them? Can you, a mom who’s been-there-done-that with your own children, benefit those still deep in the trenches of sleepless nights, playgrounds, and the uncharted world of temper tantrums in the middle of Target? Andie Meza calls her Mentor Mom, Linda Massey, her spiritual mom. Here’s what they have to say about their relationship which budded at their Moms Inc. table.
Linda and Andie, how long have each of you been attending MOMS INC.?
Linda – 2 years
Andie – 3 years
Andie, what were you expecting from the Mentor Mom at your table?
I wasn’t expecting anything. Maybe someone to pray or give us advice if we asked for it.
Linda, when asked if you would be a Mentor Mom were you nervous or doubtful that you could fulfill this need within the church?
Linda – I was a little nervous about being a Mentor Mom and if I would have anything to offer them or if they would be able to connect with me at all. The Mentor Mom Coordinator, Scotti Steip, gave us Mentor Moms a bit of terrific advice that I took to heart as I entered my new role as a Mentor Mom. She said that the girls have told her they want the Mentor Moms to pursue them and reach out to them. I was not sure what that looked like, but I decided to pray about it and seek to reach out to them. I ended up meeting with my young moms at the park for a play date with their children, at their houses or my house for a visit, at the beach for a walk with their child in a stroller, or sometimes for coffee just the two of us. I realized that I did not have to be something that I was not – my role was to reach out and love them and let The Lord guide our relationships.
Explain how the relationship grew from being at the same table to being very close now?
Linda – The first time Andie and I met outside of MOMs, INC. we connected, and it seemed clear that we were brought together by The Lord for a reason. Andie has a sweet, open, honest, loving heart, and it is easy to love her and want to encourage her. It was not something forced, but our relationship developed naturally, and I am so blessed to have the privilege of seeing her grow in her faith and in her role as a wife and mother.
Andie – The relationship was very organic. There was an instant connection between the two of us. It was easy to relate to her, to be open with her. It was easy! It was like we had known each other for a long time!
Linda, how has your life been blessed by your role as Mentor Mom and now “spiritual mom” to Andie?
Linda – I have been blessed with the opportunity to get to know Andie who amazes me with her devotion and love for the Lord and her family. She blesses me with her sincere, open heart, and her desire to grow and learn to be a better wife and mom. I am blessed to see her grow and be a part of her life. It means a lot to me to be able to pray for her and to share our lives together. I love her, and I am so thankful for the chance to be a part of her life.
Andie, how has your life been enhanced/changed by your relationship with Linda?
Andie – Oh, my life has dramatically changed! She’s been the biggest blessing ever! I mean, it’s no knock on my biological mom, but I wasn’t raised in a Christian home. I can trust Linda with anything and everything I’m going through and she keeps everything confidential. I can text her real fast and say, “This just happened… pray for me!” She prays for me, guides me, and listens to me. But she’s not just like another girlfriend, because she guides me and helps me see my circumstances through Christ’s eyes. I want to be like her. I mean, I have someone to aspire to be like, but it’s all Christ-centered. I’ve been so beyond blessed!
What would you say to experienced, maybe older, moms who are insecure about stepping into that role as a “mentor” mom?
Linda – I really thought that I would not have anything to offer the young moms, and in myself I would say that is true, but I realized that in Christ I can encourage them and love them with the love and hope He has put in my heart. As a Mentor Mom, we do not have to be something that we are not – our role is to reach out and love these young moms where they are at and allow the Lord to guide our relationships with them into what He wants. As a Mentor Mom, we have the opportunity to use our gifts to bless these young moms, and be ready to be overwhelmed with blessings from the Lord in unexpected ways. These moms are amazing, and it is so easy to love each one of them. I am so thankful for this chance to be a part of their lives.
Andie – All you have to do is have a heart to love on someone! Desire to pray for them and reach out to them. Even texts go a long way, because you never know the week that person is having. Just be willing to “be there”. You don’t need to know it all. You don’t need to have all the answers. The relationship is the key.
Andie, why are the Mentor Moms so essential to the attendees of MOMS INC.?
I know when I was in YoungLife the emphasis on the leaders was seeking out the kids – hang out with them. And it feels so good to be sought out! I think as adults we sometimes don’t know we deep down we still want to be sought out. Linda sought me out and loved on me! Or, like me with my mom, I love her, but there’s no Godly guidance. We all need that. I keep thinking I can’t be the only woman who feels this way. There have to be other moms who need to be sought after and brought closer to Christ!
In closing Andie Meza, in her passion for the Mentor Moms ministry, exclaimed, “Yeah, have one! Be one!”
If The Lord is leading you to courageously step out in faith and be a Mentor Mom, please contact Scotti Steip at firstname.lastname@example.org
If you need more convincing that you, in all your fallacies and mistakes as a parent, can be used, please contact Andie Meza at email@example.com
For phone numbers contact firstname.lastname@example.org
Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. Titus 2:3-5
Linda’s words are exact quotes written by Linda Massey herself.
Andie’s words are comprised by Janna Saavedra based on a phone interview.