I crave relationship, seriously kind of like I crave dark chocolate with chili peppers. Both sound a little “over the top” or maybe even freaky to you, but it’s the truth. I love to be with and around people, love to get into deep conversation about the hard things and the beautiful things. I like easy too, sharing a cup of tea, just the simple talk, or not saying much at all. Relationship for me is fuel for my soul a tangible, living like Jesus, sort of thing.
Being in relationship, doing life with others, I can’t imagine it any other way. I see Jesus in these moments, hear His words spoken to others and me and through these relationships I am changed.
Let no one seek his own, but each one the others well being. 1 Corinthians 10:24
This has been one of my life verses for as long as I can remember; the truth of it speaks to the heart and beauty of relationship. Just imagine if we each, entering into a relationship, any relationship, took the words of Paul seriously, imagine the fruit of those relationships. If I enter in seeking your well-being and you mine, we are both heard, seen and most importantly loved.
Easier said than done isn’t it. There are those relationships that are hard, hard to enter into because of stuff that gets in the way or hurt that has been had or even just the simple truth that there may not be a lot I have in common with you or you with me. But that’s not what Paul says, it isn’t about, find what you have in common and then do your best to share those things and laugh and cry and be merry together. Nope, it doesn’t say that at all, in fact it really says put someone else before yourself, see and hear and find out what they need and then give it to them, do it for them in any way you can making sure that their well being, that they as a person, a child of God, a person loved by God is taken care of.
Imagine if we entered into all relationships with this in mind; it’s not about me and what I may get out of this but what I can give to this relationship, to this other person. If I enter in with that attitude and you enter in with that attitude the outcome is pretty clear; we are heard, seen, and most importantly loved.
I’m not sure where you are in this whole relationship thing, if you are craving a deeper friendship with someone, working hard at your marriage or maybe you are sitting on the outside of a relationship you see as wonderful wondering how you enter into that. Speaking from experience, from the heart of one that craves this sort of thing, step in, make a new friend, say your sorry, invite someone into your circle. Seek another’s well being.