Fashion… Let’s Start the Conversation

Essentials fashion woman objects on wooden background
Yesterday while I was with my kids at the park, my friend’s daughter came running up to her mother in distress because she was “not beautiful any more.”  The little girl, distraught because her clothes had become dirty, associated her beauty with the condition of her clothing.
 
It starts young and only changes in its expression with maturity. We go from twirling around in little 4T dresses, to fretting over how short our shorts are allowed to be, to fighting the direction that our clothes are “not appropriate” because of our rapidly changing bodies, to keeping up with the latest fashions and deciding what looks best represent who we are (boho, preppy, conservative, glam, etc.) to wondering if our jeans are “mom jeans” or if the back pockets speak otherwise and we aim to “dress not for the job we have but the job we want.”
 
It may seem frivolous and silly, but if we are honest, as women many of us still tie our beauty and worth for the day with what we are wearing.  It seems as though God knows we are built like this because although these words were not specifically for women, they speak volumes to us:
 
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” {Colossians 3:12}
 
The language of putting something on in order to be different and express who we want to be is our language, friends. As with all things in this world, we are called to be in it but not of it. It’s okay for us to love clothes and fashion and it’s important that we put our best foot forward and care for our appearance… as long as our priorities don’t get mixed up and we put more focus on this than we do on knowing and loving God.
 
So this month, we want to have fun with fashion. We want to talk about it in ways that build up and bring us joy and acknowledge its gift and importance to us as women. But we also want to remind you that you are NOT what you wear. Rather you are WHO you wear.
 
For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” {Galatians 3:27-28, emphasis mine}
 
We do hope you will join us in the conversation and share your thoughts with us. Let us know what you think about fashion and how you approach it as a woman of God. Which designers do you love and how do you decide how much effort you will place on this? Do you struggle with too much shopping and/or how has God set you free in this area? How do you approach the topic of modesty and is it just as important for grown women as it is for developing young women? We want to lay it all out on the table, so bring it girls… and let’s go to our BIG GOD for direction on how then we should live.

3 thoughts on “Fashion… Let’s Start the Conversation

  1. This is clip from Beth Moore on modesty is straight up worth a listen. (Dee posted this on FB, so some may have already heard it.)

  2. The issue of modesty among women in the body of Christ has long been a hot button one. I found this quote by a Christian sister, that really convicts me:

    “Views on dress today cover the spectrum from ‘anything goes as long as my private parts are covered’ to ‘I cover myself from neck to ankle and never wear anything bolder than navy blue.’ It is unfortunate that modest dress is a controversial topic in Christian circles. What should be a fairly easy issue to decide upon (and obey) has been fragmented into dozens of ‘sub-arguments’ about liberty versus legalism, law versus grace and shamefacedness versus ostentation.

    Our culture is so saturated with immodesty that we have become desensitized to it in many ways. What was once considered pornography is now brazenly displayed on the magazine covers that assault our eyes at the grocery checkout. The world chides us for being ‘repressed’ or ‘uptight’ if we attempt to uphold the barest shadows of modest behavior and dress. Even fellow Christians tell us that there are no absolute guidelines for dress, and that we mustn’t hinder another’s ‘liberty’ by insisting that Scripture gives us boundaries for our attire.
    In the midst of this confusion, we find it difficult to ‘rightly divide the Word of Truth,’ dividing instead into camps of ‘us’ and ‘them,’ and wasting all our ammunition on our sisters in Christ when we should be building one another up in love. And cursing the darkness may make us feel good temporarily, but we had better start lighting candles if we expect anyone to take God’s Word—and His commands for modesty in particular—seriously.” ~ Mrs. M. L. Chaney

    I feel that we women need to be taught more about what modesty really is according to the Word of God, and get our guidelines from there 🙂

  3. I grew up in a very conservative family and have always shopped with the awareness that when we women bend forward, more may show than intended. I was taught to avoid wearing clothes that would cause men to stumble: short skirts and short shorts, bare neck/back, tight pants and low necklines.

    I’ve had a double mastectomy with reconstruction; the stuffing was taken from my lower abdomen. My surgeon in Torrance really messed me up and I traveled to have seven surgeries with the top reconstruction doc in the world to get as close to as “normal” again as possible. While my results are not the business of any man other than my surgeon in New Orleans and my husband, I can honestly say that I’ve flashed hundreds of women facing the same surgery–in restrooms all over the country. I guess I have a secret side that isn’t so modest after all, but really it’s due to an amazingly talented surgeon who put me back together and my desire that others avoid the problems I suffered. I think my focus over the past several years has not been so much on the clothing I wear, but on the skin I inhabit, changes, scars and all. While most of the women I met along my breast reconstruction journey are buying low-cut tops to show off their new cleavage, I haven’t changed the way I clothe myself except for buying larger clothes, thanks to gaining a lot of weight due to being on Tamoxifen. 😦

    I have boycotted Carl’s Jr. for a while now, because I feel their TV commercials are pornographic, as are those of Victoria’s Secret. I do have a lot of respect for the way Beth Moore dresses…and I doubt that people look at her and think she’s being overly modest, but they certainly do notice immodesty!

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